4 Steps to Find Peace and Calm

Do you perceive your life to be chaotic?

Did you know that anxiety is on the rise in our society, and it’s not going away?

That doesn’t mean that it has to be your reality.

What if I told you that you could do something about it and find a place where you can be at peace and master your emotions.

According to Lise Bourbeau, a world-renowned therapist, five major emotional wounds condition us. These five wounds are rejection, abandonment, humiliation, injustice, and betrayal. Here’s a brief description of them:

Rejection: Your deep needs are to belong, to exist, and to love. The solution is to confront your reality by accepting and embracing your weaknesses and qualities.

Abandonment: Your deep needs are attention, to exist, and to love. The solution for that wound is to become autonomous. You have to discover your abilities to heal yourself and live by yourself.

Humiliation: Your deep needs are freedom and independence. The solution to healing the humiliation wound would be to improve self-esteem by rediscovering that every being is an extraordinary person.

Injustice: Your deep needs are freedom, intuition, emotion, and being yourself. The solution to healing the injustice wound is flexibility.

Betrayal: Your deepest needs are to be self-confident and free. The solution to the betrayal wound is to learn to let go. Accept where you are, respect who you are, and learn to listen to yourself.

Know that every human being has experienced these wounds, at least once, in their life. Here are four steps to help you heal those wounds and find peace:

Step 1: The healing must be a personal commitment of you with yourself. If there are constraints and obligations, it will not work. Put your ego aside and accept that these wounds are part of you; they will open the door to healing. It is completely normal and human to have emotional wounds, which can be conscious and unconscious.

Step 2: Take a few minutes to review the five wounds. Listen to your emotions, your feelings, and your reactions. Your thoughts will not help you. It is your heart that knows what is right and good for you. Otherwise, I invite you to observe your physical body, which is generally the first shield that a human being uses.

Step 3: Forgive and accept that you had those experiences. To better move forward and evolve, be grateful for your past. Take responsibility for it and chose to let go of your role as a victim. Become a leader in your own life.

Step 4: Chose to move away from judging your past and all the negative or traumatic situations you’ve experienced. Chose to learn from those lessons.

Learn To Master Your Emotions and Eliminate Anxiety with Carmina Aguirre, Mental Health Expert & Mindset Coach, and Founder of La Luce (www.laluce.com).