5 Wounds You Need to Heal to Reclaim Your Personal Power

Have you ever felt a gut-wrenching feeling in your stomach of betrayal? What about the heartbreaking feeling of being abandoned? Was there ever a moment in high school that you were utterly humiliated? Have you ever been falsely accused of a crime or injustice? Were things with your lover going great and all of a sudden you got hit with rejection that you didn’t see coming?

Wounds from our childhood, romantic affairs, and even our professional lives can be significant barriers to reclaiming your personal power and being our true selves.

By being aware of your behaviors and wounds, you are getting to know yourself better and also understanding why you tend to behave in specific ways.

These barriers are identified by five wounds, popularized by the famous French author, Lise Bourbeau. Those wounds are abandonment, betrayal, humiliation, injustice, and rejection.

Determine which wounds are the most significant barriers to your growth and expression of your true self.

Abandonment

Those who suffer from abandonment do not feel emotionally nourished enough. They often have ups and downs: for a while, they are happy, and everything is fine, and suddenly, they feel unhappy and sad. Their greatest fear is loneliness since it is directly connected to that feeling of being abandoned. They usually seek the opinion or approval of others before making decisions and they doubt their choice when they don’t feel supported by someone else. And when they do something for someone, they often do it with the expectation of a return of affection.

Betrayal

The wound of betrayal is intimately related to the wound of abandonment.

Very uncompromising, they want to show others what they are capable of. They often interrupt and respond before a person is finished. When things don’t go fast enough to their liking, they become angry. They hate not being trusted and do not always keep their commitments and promises or forces themselves to keep them.

They consider themselves hard-working and responsible: they struggle with laziness. They hate not being trusted and do not always keep their commitments and promises or forces themselves to keep them. They tend to be impatient and intolerant. They confide with difficulty and do not show their vulnerability.

Their biggest fears are disengagement, separation, dissociation, and denial, which are often experienced in a situation of betrayal.

Humiliation

This wound is mostly related to the physical aspect of having and doing. People with the humiliation wound are often ashamed of themselves and others or afraid to shame others. They think they are dirty or unclean. They don’t want to recognize and assume their sensuality and their love of the pleasures associated with the senses. That is why they often compensate and reward themselves with food. And they gain weight quickly to give themselves a reason not to enjoy their senses.

They are also afraid of being “punished” if they enjoy life too much. So, they ignore their freedom by putting the needs of others before their own, so that they stop enjoying life.

Most individuals with the humiliation wound want to do everything for others. In reality, they want to create constraints and obligations for themselves to stop enjoying their freedom and life. This lack of enjoyment reinforces the feeling of being abused and humiliated. And in the same way, they tend to demean and humiliate others by making them feel that they cannot do it alone without them. They are often inclined to blame themselves for everything and even take the blame for others. Their biggest fear is their freedom; they are afraid to lose the ability to be themselves when humiliated by others.

Injustice

The wound related to injustice is intimately linked to the wound of rejection. People with the injustice wound are usually lively persons with dynamic movements, but who are rigid and lack flexibility. Often a perfectionist and envious. They try to be perfect and justify their actions. They find it difficult to admit that they have problems. They often doubt their choices. They like order and tend to control themselves by demanding a lot from each other.

These individuals tend to cut themselves off from their feelings and often cross their arms. They can be angry and cold and has difficulty showing affection.

It is often difficult for people with the injustice wound to accept compliments, help, or gifts from others because they feel in debt toward the person after. Their biggest fear is when others are cold toward them because that awakens the unfairness but is also a reflection of their shadow.

Rejection

Rejection is a profound wound because the one who suffers from it feels rejected in his being and even in his right to exist. They seek solitude because if they receive a lot of attention, they would be afraid of not knowing what to do. They don’t know what to do with themselves when they get too much attention.

They often wonder what they are doing on this planet and finds it hard to believe that they could be happy here and bring something to this world.They don’t know what to do with themselves when they get too much attention.

In relationships with others, they are constantly finding ways to seek love from the parent of the same sex and will reject themselves from a person of the other sex, often feeling guilty when they face rejection. It is not unusual for them to live in ambivalence; when they are accepted, they won’t believe it and often create a self-sabotaging situation so that others reject them. Their biggest fear is panic and anxiety because that often arises in them when they are rejected.

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